Mothers Day 2011 Vigils, Speakouts, Marches, Demonstrations and Prayer

From The California Protective Parent Association Newsletter:


Mothers of Lost Children and their supporters are having a speak-out and candlelight vigil on Mothers Day May 8, 2011 at the White House in Washington, D.C.  from

6:00 pm to 9:30 pm. Please note the time change.

6:00 pm speak-out

7:00 pm march

7:45 pm candlelight vigil

Information will be available Sunday night about activities on Monday.

There is also another event for mothers in the afternoon organized by a separate group.  Here is the information we have:!/pages/Million-Mom-March-Mothers-Day-2011-in-Washington-DC/153380204718360 


Mothers and supporters are meeting on Monday May 9 in Sacramento, California to bring attention to the broken family and juvenille court systems which harm victims of domestic violence and child abuse. 

Noon              Assemble at the West side of CA State Capitol (10th Street between L and N Streets) to pray.

12:30             March from the State Capitol to the Appellate Court.
1:30                Demonstration
3:00               Assemble in the Committee Room at the Capitol. Assembly Member Fiona Ma is the keynote speaker.



Information from:

Please join us on May 9, 2011 at the California State Capitol. Our mission is to bring attention to the issue of how our broken family and juvenille court systems are harming victims of domestic violence and child abuse and to demonstrate to the public the severity and extent of the crisis in our family and juvenile court system and other corrupt court systems throughout the country. Second, we are assembling, along with our legislators and experts in domestic violence and child abuse, to discuss possible ways to end the crisis and bring justice to those whose rights have been violated.

Event Schedule:

12 Noon: Meet on the South side of the California State Capitol to assemble and pray.

12:30 to 1:30 pm: March at the State Capitol and up to the Appellate Court house.

1:30 to 3 pm: Demonstrate in front of the front of the Capitol/Lunch Breaks worked in there somewhere.

3 to 5 pm: Assemble on the south side of the Capitol for speakers and panel discussions.

Check out our “Links” to get information on organizations that will be supporting us at the march, to connect with us on Facebook, and to listen to the 4Justice radio show featuring our event! See our “Messages” for more detailed information about the event and how you can help!



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Join Us On Maui For Mother’s Day!

Written by Dara Carlin | Examiner | 02 May 2011

dara_carlin_maui_mothers_dayMother’s Day is fast approaching, this Sunday, May 8th – time to buy “the perfect card”, send some flowers, make brunch reservations or dinner plans!

Our earliest recollections of Mother’s Day likely include memories of construction paper cards made at school, held together with Elmer’s glue, written in crayon or magic marker and perhaps a little glitter; flowers hand-picked from a neighbor’s yard and noble attempts at making a pancake breakfast in bed. Even though these efforts were done for Mom, the reward was actually ours as we waited in excited anticipation of her response: the smile that makes you swell with pride knowing you did good and the embrace of unconditional love that only a mother’s arms can provide.

For victims and survivors of abuse, however, these memories are only hopes and dreams – Mother’s Day for those impacted by domestic violence and child abuse is an annual day of agony where outstretched arms remain empty and feelings of isolation, loneliness and loss are all-consuming. For mothers and children who have lost each other through domestic violence, Mother’s Day is particularly excruciating as the day will hold a very painful journey to a gravesite where regrets and even happy memories will torment those left behind.

Death is not the only way that mothers and their children are separated through domestic violence however. For those moms “lucky” enough to have “successfully escaped” domestic violence, too many lose custody of their children to their abusers in subsequent child custody and visitation proceedings in family court. The Leadership Council conservatively estimates that 58,000 children PER YEAR are ordered into UNsupervised contact with physically or sexually abusive parents following divorce in the United States.

While Hawaii has some of the best domestic violence statutes in the country (like 571-46(9) that I mentioned in a previous article which says a perpetartor of family violence should not be awarded sole or joint custody of the children) the problem is that domestic violence is either ignored, marginalized, minimized or litigated away so the statutes designed to protect women and children from ongoing abuse never get applied. The result is that domestic violence survivor moms – some of the best and most protective parents around – become childless after having their children (sometimes literally) ripped away from them.

This Sunday, May 8th, I will be joining a group of domestic violence survivor moms and their supporters on Maui from 9:00am – 12:00pm in the K-Mart parking lot at the corner of Haleakala Highway and Dairy Road for a sign waving and peaceful demonstration calling attention to motherless children and childless mothers taken away from each other through domestic violence and/or family court proceedings that ignored evidence of abuse.

PLEASE put on some purple (the color that represents domestic violence) and come out to join us or give a drive-by and a honk to let these brave and protective parents know that your heart is with them. A petition will be circulated demanding that the law be applied and adhered to in cases of violence and abuse so that the children born into such situations will remain in the arms of their protective parent rather then the clutches of an abuser.

The event on Maui will be in solidarity with the Mothers of Lost Children speakout and candlelight vigil in front of the White House in Washington, DC that will begin just as our Maui event ends (6:00 – 9:30pm Eastern Standard Time). To see last year’s White House event, go to:

On Monday, May 9th, moms and their supporters will be gathering in Sacramento, CA outside of the State Capitol to call attention to the broken family and juvenile court systems which harm victims of domestic violence and child abuse.

So please come join us and help to spread the word to show your support for our makuahine and keiki this Mother’s Day so that by next Mother’s Day, outstretched arms may be received by embraces.




Press Release- Photo Op
Contact: Sandra Ramos. 973-831-0898 or 862-686-2771
Strengthen Our Sisters to Hold Mothers Day Demonstration to Protest Mother’s Losing Custody of Their Children to Batterers

On Friday, May 6th , Strengthen Our Sisters will hold their 6th annual Mother’s Day demonstration in front of the Passaic County New Jersey Courthouse, 401 Grand Street, Paterson, at 12:00 noon. Joined by mothers all over the world, the demonstration will consist of mothers and their supporters marching with empty baby carriages to protest the trend in court rulings that award custody to batterers and child molesters on a regular basis.

“All too often this happens because batterers can afford high priced attorneys who know how to manipulate the victim and the system. Contrary to popular belief, According to a Presidential Task Force Domestic Violence Report in 1996 ; state’s : “70% of Batterers who seek custody of the children get full custody.”  Fatherhood Funding receives in excess of $500.000.000.00 to fix bad dad, these funds are diverted and used to take mothers children and give them to the abusive father under the pretense of ‘involving fathers’ in their children’s lives. Mothers across the Nation call for a Congressional investigation into the failure of family courts to protect children and the potential fraud, waste and abuse of taxpayer dollars. Obama (and Congress) you are killing children with the tax payer’s money. STOP FATHERHOOD FUNDING NOW!

During the past two decades, mothers have been losing custody of their children (even nursing infants) in increasing numbers to fathers who are convicted or identified batterers, child molesters, drug addicts, gang-bangers and felons . Family courts force children into the custody of abusive fathers at alarming rates , allowing these men to continue controlling and abusing their victims .Mothers who stayed in abusive relationships to “protect” their children were charged for ‘failure to protect’. Mothers who left their abusers and tried to be “friendly” and co-parent in the face of ‘ Mandatory Shared Parenting Laws ‘, lose their children to abuser’s and Mother’s are being ordered to ‘Supervised Visitation’ or are completely denied ANY contact with their children.Sandra Ramos who founded the first shelter for battered women in North America, and who is also a professor at William Paterson University and Ramapo College is asking that people think about what they will be doing on Mother’s Day and to try to imagine how they would feel if their own children had been taken from them and placed with dangerous perpetrators. She posed the question, “How would they feel if they had to wake up each morning not knowing what horrors or tortures their children might be enduring, with the knowledge that they could do nothing legally to protect them?” In addition, the mothers are forced to pay child support or go to jail.“We must raise public awareness about the terrifying power of the courts,” Ramos said. “We have a comprehensive and growing file of cases where children have been taken away from caring non-abusive loving protective parents and placed with the abusive parent. Far too many children have been placed in harms way by court orders. We are asking for re-examination of cases by an unbiased review board when judicial misconduct has been reported.”  There has been a wide range of interest nationally in this phenomenon and was addressed at the Mother’s Custody Conference in Albany, NY in 2011. Ramos who speaks throughout the country and was the keynote speaker at the first World Conference of Women’s Shelters says that she has been besieged with calls and reports from mothers who have lost custody, or are in danger of losing custody, everywhere she goes.“Research shows that half the men who abuse their wives or girlfriends abuse the children too and there is evidence to show that such abuse escalates post separation. Children who grow up with abuse are more prone to behavioral problems, depression, eating disorders, suicide, school failure and increased drop out rates, juvenile delinquency, substance abuse, adult criminality, and are more prone to becoming involved in abusive relationships as adults,” says Mo Therese Hannah, Ph.D., Associate Professor of Psychology at Siena College,. Dr. Hannah, whose professional focus is on couples therapy and dynamics of abuse, was the chief organizer of the Mothers Custody Conference.People are encouraged to bring signs for the protest as well as empty baby carriages. Buttons will be handed out saying “The Court is the Cash Register and Children Pay the Price” , as well as “ Children should be Seen Heard, Believed, and Protected .” People who wish to participate should call, 973-831-0898 or email It is hoped mothers will come forth with their own stories which will be filmed at the protest. The event will be filmed by Jackie Aluotto, film producer personified of Pick it Up Pictures. The event will have marching, drumming, singing and a speak out.Following this demonstration we will be joining the Million Mom March Mother’s Day 2011, at 1600 Pennsylvania Ave. Washington, D.C .Mother’s of Lost Children, American Mothers Political Party, Courageous Kids, Mothers For Custodial Justice, Mothers From the East Coast to the West Coast and more Mothers and Organizations are Marching in Washington D.C on Mother’s Day, Sunday May 8th, through Monday May 9, 2011.





Join the Mothers of Lost Children in Silent Vigil at the White House on Mothers Day

UPDATE: New hours for the Vigil to be held on Mothers Day, May 8th, 2011. 

There will be a speakout scheduled to start at 6:00 pm in front of the White House.  This will be followed by circling the White House, going down 17th St. over to Constitution Ave. then up 15th St. until we return to the front of the White House.  This will be what we did last year, but just continues the journey completely around the White House complex.  A candlelight vigil will then begin, being held until 9:30 pm.  Bring your signs, banners, and candles (battery operated if possible).  We will have a few to hand out, and will have some “Mothers of Lost Children” t-shirts also.  If you have any questions, please email “”.   Contact phone number is (317) 455-5827.  This change will hopefully allow this vigil to happen without any problems. 

A protest is still being worked out for the front of the U. S. Department of Health and Human Services at 11:00 am on Monday, May 9th.  Stay tuned for more information coming on that.  Thank you and we hope to see you there!

Protest held on February 14th, 2011, at the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services

before they threatened to have us arrested.

We are going to be at the White House again on Mothers Day 2011, to protest the use of taxpayer funds to support fatherhood initiative programs, which have been effective in helping abusive fathers in taking custody of children away from their victims.   Extra accommodations have been secured at the hostel we usually stay at for these events, which have been going on about three times a year, so if you can’t find a place to stay, email about this.  This is a clean, safe place to stay and costs only $38.00 a night (breakfast included!).

Some of the organizations taking part and supporting the Silent Vigil include Mothers of Lost Children Chapters in California, Indiana and Delaware, the California Protective Parents Association, the Center for Judicial Excellence, the National Organization for Women, and the Battered Mothers Custody Conference. Many other organizations are also included.  If you cannot attend the event in Washington, D.C. on Mothers Day, something will be planned in Indiana that you can attend.  Other states will be holding similar events, and Ms. Hodge will be coordinating a lot of these as she has publicity contacts nationwide.

So stay tuned for more information…hope you can attend this year’s event!  Last year was very successful in many ways.  There were hundreds of mothers in vigil.  It needs to continue until the practice of giving abusers custody of children stops.

Mothers of Lost Children Silent Vigil from Mothers Day, 2010



Food Preparations for Freedom Seder Yields Healing to Salvation for Survivors

The Freedom Seder for survivors of abuse, is the brainchild of the Voices of Justice, and has taken off with an emotional and overwhelming response. Donations for food, and donations for money from all over America are simply awe inspiring. During this season of Galus-to-Geulah (from captivity to salvation), survivors have joined together and bonded over the preparations, which continue to be gargantuan.

As the potatoes were peeled and the onions were chopped, emotions of long suppressed feelings of shame, anger, and abandonment by loved ones and the community resurfaced, but in a new healthy way. As the kugels were baking and the horseradish was flavored, the friendships and feelings of acceptance have taken root.

This event would not have been possible if Sherree wouldn’t have offered her magnificent commercial-sized kitchen in Lawrence. With enough room for everyone to command their own counter space, and an unlimited variety of kosher for Passover equipment and paraphernalia, this preparation is a pure culinary treat.

Along with the therapeutic properties of interpersonal connections and validations, this first annual event has blossomed into something larger than life.

The time has come for survivors to support each other.

A special Yasher Koach to Bina who arranged a carpool for the volunteers, and for Rivkie who offered to tackle the 6 cases of chicken, with a smile! Yasher Koach to Yanky and Motty, for peeling and chopping vegetables, that took two van-rides to get to Lawrence! Yasher koach to Annie for making pan after pan of kugel and stuff. Yasher koach Shmuel for schlepping and driving, smiling and patiently waiting.

What a zechus!

If anyone is available to come today to Lawrence and help with the last batch of cooking, please call 1-800-958-2904 to let us know that you are coming.

Thank you!

Urgent Call for Those with a Baccalaureate Degree to Join ACS in New York

Child Protective Services in New York has a division called Administration for Children’s Services (ACS). Although caseworkers in this division are called Child Protective Specialists, they have historically been neglectful of children’s needs. With last week’s news story of the death of a child, changes need to take place.

Although we are asking for the city to take action, we citizens of New York need to take action too. We need qualified people to get jobs with ACS in New York. Only then can we change the system from within. We want to make a difference and this is how we can make that difference.

Would you lie to a family court judge and write a report that you “visited the home six times and there presents no danger to the children”, when in reality, you never even knocked on that door?

Well, it’s been done before by workers with supposed baccalaureate degrees.

Now we will do this the right way.

We will stand by the children of New York, because every child has rights. Under the constitution, children have a right to life and a right to education. Children also have a right to have their emotional and intellectual needs be met so they can reach their highest potential.

Since there is currently no statute defining the measure of psychological and emotional abuse, a worker must use intuition and training to escalate a case to the domestic violence division. It is usually only after the DV workers step in that hidden abuses such as unwarranted parental alienation, incest and neglect can be discovered and addressed. The sooner qualified workers offer their services, the sooner more children will grow up safely protected from their abusers.

Most positions in New York City government are filled through civil service examinations which are administered by the Department of Citywide Administrative Services (DCAS). Click here for the application information and job requirements. Before applying for this job, please get in contact with us. The Coalition Against Legal Abuse NY will assist you in this holy work.

The Coalition Against Legal Abuse NY is comprised of ultra-Orthodox Jewish women who are aligned to combat corruption in the Brooklyn, New York District Attorney’s office. Please contact for more information.

How to Expose a National Scandal Part 8: Petition the United States Supreme Court


Mother Taking Her Case to United States Supreme Court


In our nation’s family courts, what happens when a parent in good faith presents evidence that the other parent has abused their child?

Ask Linda Marie Sacks, a mother in Florida who lost contact with her children for trying to protect them.

She’s been allowed to see her two daughters for only 79 hours in three years and ten months. With no case plan or reunification plan provided by the family court, this is the longest family law referral in the history of the Daytona Beach supervised visitation center.

A 2008 press release from the Leadership Council says, “According to a conservative estimate by experts at the Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence (LC), more than 58,000 children a year are ordered into unsupervised contact with physically or sexually abusive parents following divorce in the United States. This is over twice the yearly rate of new cases of childhood cancer. “

On May 6, 2011, the Friday before Mother’s Day, Ms. Sacks will file a petition for a writ of certiorari with the U.S. Supreme Court in Washington D.C. in her continuing effort to be re-united with her children. After years of hearings in the Florida state courts, this mother will ask our highest court to consider her obligation to protect her children and her right to unsupervised contact with them.

The U.S. Supreme Court is more likely to grant a petition for a writ of certiorari when multiple Amicus Briefs are filed along with the petition. This is an opportunity for our highest court to establish the parental right to protect children from intrafamilial abuse.

If your organization would like to help write and/or help gather Amicus Briefs for this case, it would be greatly appreciated.


The questions to be presented are:

  1. If a parent makes a good faith allegation of abuse, with documented evidence,
    in an effort to protect his or her children, should that parent be deprived of physical
    custody of those children, or have contact with those children supervised indefinitely without a case plan or reunification plan provided by the trial court?
  2.  Does a state court violate the First, Fifth and Fourteenth Amendments when it
    deprives a parent of physical custody and limits that parent’s contact to supervised
    visitation with children, for taking the reasonable action based upon a belief,
    supported by facts that children need protection from abuse?
  3.  Does a state court’s custody decision that deprives a parent of access to his or her
    children  indefinitely, unless supervised, without a finding of unfitness by clear and
    convincing  evidence, which effectively terminates parental rights,
    violate the Fifth and Fourteenth Amendments?


If you would like to receive copies of any/all related documents, contact:

Linda Marie Sacks


Press please contact:

Kathleen Russell
Executive Director
Center for Judicial Excellence
495 Miller Avenue, Suite 304
Mill Valley, CA 94941
Main 415.388.9600 Fax 415.388.4610

Valentine’s Day Vigil at the White House


From the California Protective Parent Association newsletter:

The Mothers Movement is a persistent, insistent civil and human rights campaign.  We will never give up until this horrible nightmare for children and nurturing  safe mothers ends.

Mothers of Lost Children are gathering  on Sunday February 13 from 2:00 – 4:00 pm at the White House for a vigil. Do bring warm clothes and your white t-shirt. We will meet at the International Hostel that night at 6:00 pm for a planning meeting. On Monday February 14 (another poignant holiday for moms who have lost their children to abusers) we will gather at the US Department of Health and  Human Services at  200 Independence Ave SW for a press conference at 11:00  am. We will march to the Senate buildings to ask for Congressional investigation into huge expenditures for fatherhood (zero for motherhood) that end up with such terrible outcomes for children. See for more information.

Seeking Managing Attorney for Custody and Abuse Project

From The Domestic Violence Legal Empowerment and Appeals Project:


DV LEAP is pleased to announce that we are seeking a Managing Attorney for our Custody and Abuse Project.  The position is anticipated to be ¾ time, with benefits. Through our Custody and Abuse Project, DV LEAP responds to the growing number of domestic violence victims around the country losing custody of their children or being required by courts to turn over their children for unsafe visitation with an abuser. Because these outcomes are widely fueled by the misuse of faulty psychological theories often proffered by neutral evaluators and other court appointees, the Project seeks to educate judges, evaluators and attorneys/advocates about the misuse of such theories and to improve accurate assessment of cases involving domestic violence. The Project will do this through (1) trainings for judges and court-appointed neutrals; (2) trainings for lawyers and advocates on how to combat these problems in litigation; (3) written resources materials for all four professions as well as for pro se litigants and organizations working with pro se litigants; and (4) expert technical assistance and mentoring for lawyers, advocates, and pro se litigants in individual cases.
The Managing Attorney will have lead responsibility for management of a two-year federal grant for this Project, working closely with DV LEAP’s Executive Director. To see the job description and additional information, including how to apply please click here or contact Oliver Black at 

Leadership Institute for Justice

 From The Center for Judicial Excellence:


Leadership Institute for Justice 

California Women of Color ~

Have the courts placed your children in harm’s way despite evidence of abuse? Has justice for you and your children been denied? If so, you have been confronting the crisis in the family courts. And you are not alone.


How can we fix the family courts? With a committed and vocal group of parents who are willing to share their stories and advocate for policies that can repair the broken aspects of the system. 

What can you do? Harness your power and become a leader in the nationwide movement for family court reform!


SILENT NO LONGER: Empowered Women of Color Confronting the Family Court Crisis
A leadership development program offered by the Center for Judicial Excellence thanks to a generous grant from the Community Action Fund of the Women’s Foundation of California Friday Evening, March 11th – Sunday, March 13th, 2011  At the Headlands Institute, beautifully situated on the pristine Marin Headlands, part of the Golden Gate National Recreation Area. 


  Join Us

Be part of this extraordinary weekend of healing, sharing, learning, and strategizing, as we prepare to take our movement to the next level in 2011. Space is limited, so please apply early. If your application is accepted, you will be invited to participate in the program at no cost to you. The program includes: lodging, meals, and all workshops and materials. English-Spanish translation and interpretation services will be provided.

Click here to apply online before February 8th!